Power & Dating

I finally understood something about dating that I never realized before: people want to protect their power during the romantic process.

There are 2 types of power though: there’s the power you have over yourself and there’s power over other people.

People who are strong conquer themselves. People who are weak feel the need to conquer and control others.

I realize we live in a culture that renders people disposable. You can sit behind your phone and order people into your home like a seamless delivery. People now live with a false sense of power over others.

Does this make love heartbreaking? Yes. Go to therapy. Clean up your inner voices, learn to love yourself. And go out into the world. Skip the people that need to have power over you to feel good, and find the ones that let you feel safe in your power. That let you be the most free expression of yourself.

This is easier said than done. So much easier said than done. We always get kicked in the teeth, over and over again. It takes a certain degree of tenacity to get back up. To conquer the negative experiences. To tell ourselves we are worthy of love, and then re-emerge in the world with the lightness of Spring.